The Pain of Giving
As a child I was always told that the greatest happiness is there in giving and not accepting things. And to prove this thing a story was told about Akbar and Birbal in which Akbar was provoked to eat a stomach full meal and then was taken on a boat ride. When his bowel gets upset and he needs to answer the nature's call, the boat ride is intensionally delayed for a longer time. Finally when he reaches ground and is done with his job he feels very relived. And we were told that this type feeling can be achieved only by giving things away.
Giving is one thing and giving away the thing you love is another. In the story also whatever Akbar gives away to the field was not meant for him. He was never in love with that thing. It was meant to be passed away. When you have to give things you love it hurts a lot. Ask a small child for the toy he has just got after a lot of pestering to his parents. He would die crying but won't let it go. Adults are no different. Ask a guy insanely in love with his girl to leave her to some new lover. He would feel no different than that child as if a saw is being sawn slowly and steadly over his heart.
Now lets imagine a hypothetical situation. A child goes to the market with his parents. Seeing a toy shop he urges his parents to go inside the shop on a codition that he won't compel them to buy anything. In the shop he sees a toy perfectly to his liking. The fact that he had seen something similar in his cousin's hand a week before only aggravates his desire to have that toy. The cunnig shopkeeper takes the toy and gives to the kid to play with it. All this bits and pieces takes his desire to a point of no return. Now he wants that toy on any condition, breaking the initial promise which he made to his parents. In this case also the child would have felt that having thing is much more joyfull than giving things. Where should have he stopped.
Now lets imagine further how to rip off the heart of the child. The parents are somehow convinced that this particular toy would be more approriate for the child's younger brother. So they buy that toy, which has manufacturor's condition that it should be in only one hand and should not be shared or else it will break, and give it to the younger brother. Now the child not only has to part away with the toy but he also has to go through the pain of observing his brother play with that toy days and nights. How can this child be convinced that giving away things is more pleasurable than acquiring things.
In day to day life we keep on coming across such scenarios. Your colleague getting promoted over you is one of them. Your manager might be having 5 reasons for promoting him but you might be having 10 more reasons than him for promoting you above your colleague. At the last since you couldn't have the promotion, in vengeance you would probably quit the current job for a better paying one. But still you proved that acquiring things is more pleasurable than giving things.
Whatever stories heard or seen, real or hypothetical I find Karna was the only one brave enough to give things away but I'm sure it wouldn't have been easy for him also.
Giving is one thing and giving away the thing you love is another. In the story also whatever Akbar gives away to the field was not meant for him. He was never in love with that thing. It was meant to be passed away. When you have to give things you love it hurts a lot. Ask a small child for the toy he has just got after a lot of pestering to his parents. He would die crying but won't let it go. Adults are no different. Ask a guy insanely in love with his girl to leave her to some new lover. He would feel no different than that child as if a saw is being sawn slowly and steadly over his heart.
Now lets imagine a hypothetical situation. A child goes to the market with his parents. Seeing a toy shop he urges his parents to go inside the shop on a codition that he won't compel them to buy anything. In the shop he sees a toy perfectly to his liking. The fact that he had seen something similar in his cousin's hand a week before only aggravates his desire to have that toy. The cunnig shopkeeper takes the toy and gives to the kid to play with it. All this bits and pieces takes his desire to a point of no return. Now he wants that toy on any condition, breaking the initial promise which he made to his parents. In this case also the child would have felt that having thing is much more joyfull than giving things. Where should have he stopped.
Now lets imagine further how to rip off the heart of the child. The parents are somehow convinced that this particular toy would be more approriate for the child's younger brother. So they buy that toy, which has manufacturor's condition that it should be in only one hand and should not be shared or else it will break, and give it to the younger brother. Now the child not only has to part away with the toy but he also has to go through the pain of observing his brother play with that toy days and nights. How can this child be convinced that giving away things is more pleasurable than acquiring things.
In day to day life we keep on coming across such scenarios. Your colleague getting promoted over you is one of them. Your manager might be having 5 reasons for promoting him but you might be having 10 more reasons than him for promoting you above your colleague. At the last since you couldn't have the promotion, in vengeance you would probably quit the current job for a better paying one. But still you proved that acquiring things is more pleasurable than giving things.
Whatever stories heard or seen, real or hypothetical I find Karna was the only one brave enough to give things away but I'm sure it wouldn't have been easy for him also.
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